...this might actually be one of the last
times you’ll hear from me. After three
years of being at the hands of an abusive, narcissistic woman, she finally
pushed me past my breaking point. She
pushed and pushed and pushed. There was no damage,
luckily I caught myself before I really did anything. I guess it’s lucky that I didn’t start
punching - she would have deserved it - being the vindictive, bullying, smart mouthed thing that she is. I saw the satisfaction in her voice and in
her body language when she screamed, “YOU’RE OUTTA HERE!!!”. Yes, I was outta there, but not because she
said so, I was out of there because I won’t be with a person who not only has
the ability, but the intention – of pushing me to that point. Not only that, but she has been trying to
push me to that point for three years.
Any other guy would have beat the daylights out of her three years
ago. She knew I had no way out, and boy
did she ever enjoy the control, the smartass, and the bullying. She knew what smartass did to me, she knew my
history, and that’s why she did it, it was her favorite weapon, and her way of
punishing me for whatever garbage was
in her head. So, no more smartass directed at me, no more
threats, no more listening to the endless sniping and disrespect, and no more
bullying – on any front.
So, now I’m here at a place where I’m not sure what will
happen. The owner of this complex pretty
much found me on her doorstep, and offered help. She’s not made of money, either, so it’s not
like I’m rescued, and I’m damn sure not out of the woods. I may run out of food in 3 or 4 days. If by some miracle that doesn’t happen, I don’t
know what will happen beyond that. I’m
sure I won’t be able to pull off something that I haven’t been able to in the
two miserable years I’ve been in this horrible town – I haven’t worked a day
since I got here, and damn, magically I’ll get work – not likely. That’s not to say I won’t try, I’ll do
everything I can, but in my experience, when I’m in a race against the clock, I
lose every time.
I know I’ve said this a few times over the years, but
here it is again, I am damn tired of being kicked around by the forces of the
universe, and whatever else has been going on.
It’s not “Poor me”, or, “Why me?”, I’m just goddam tired of fighting –
fighting while I don’t even know what the hell I’m fighting against. Nobody will ever convince me that my life has
just been the natural order of things, it is beyond obvious that somebody, or a
group of somebodies – somebodies who have a lot of power – have made all these
bizarre things happen. Shit like what
has happened in my life doesn’t just happen by chance – sorry, ain’t buyin’ it.
I won’t be going back to the narcissistic, vindictive
woman. All this being said, I find
myself being just a little excited about this new adventure, but, I’m also not
past being goddam tired of fighting. So,
should this episode go sour, I will be checking out – for good. I’m no kid, I don’t have my whole life in
front of me, and I don’t have the stamina or the enthusiasm that goes along
with youth. I may go from excited to
screw it in a few days, and again, if that should happen, I will say aloha nui
loa, and head out. I don’t expect
anybody to take care of me, but what I do expect is for the Powers That Be to
leave me alone so I can work, get my life back, have my own little space to
live my little life. I don’t see that
magically happening, either, so it seems likely to me that this is about the
end of the road for me. I don’t see life
the way most people do, I don’t value it (referring to my own) all that much,
it’s like any other trip I would take, I take the trip, and when I’m done, I’m
done. I’ve also said this before – I’m
not sad about it, it’s just that if my quality of life continues to deescalate,
it’s time to end the voyage.
Couple of closing statements: One, I would have been happy to have moved to
San Diego – which was the topic of discussion when all this bullshit hit the
fan, because I’m sure I could have found steady work there, and who knows what
else. It’s not possible to convince a
negative person – a person who will always look for reasons to NOT do
something, as opposed to me, who has always look for reasons TO do
something. No matter how good something
may look, if the person is angry and resentful, and doesn’t want to look at the possibility
of good results, there’s no convincing them.
And people want me to believe that I’M the negative one. Most of my excursions in life have not panned
out – which takes me back to what I said before – things don’t just happen,
they are made to happen; but I took risks, I gave up lots of things, lots of
luxuries, lots of comforts, lots of things I would have liked to have, but
well, here I am, having been deprived of it, and having lost what little did
have – taking all those risks with no good result. If a risky situation should be presented to
me now, I’d still do it, mostly because that’s who I am. I’m not thinking that that’s a possibility at
this point, just stating that to make a point.
The second of my closing statements is, $3000+ a month
for living expenses, my ass. I wasn’t
the one who was in control of the money, and, on top of that, I’m not the one
with the filthy, expensive cigarette habit, or any habit, and I suspect online
video gaming played a part in this – and NOT by me. Whatever the case, I’m not buyin’ it that it
can cost over three goddam thousand dollars a month for living expenses.
So, dear diary, I may or may not see you again. If so, good, if not, maybe I’ll see you in
the next rearrangement of them nasty little atoms. Callie, I miss you terribly, and I love you
more than I have any human, I hope on some level you know that, and, I hope you
know I didn’t leave you by my own choice.